While Mother’s Day is supposed to be a time for honoring the moms and motherly figures in our lives, for those who are longing to be a mom, those who have experienced the loss of their mom or a child, or for those who have a difficult relationship with their mom, this day can be a painful reminder of the challenges you are facing. Between the constant advertisements, Mother’s Day hoopla, and the barrage of posts on Facebook and Instagram, it can feel like you are the only one who isn’t feeling festive- but you are not alone! 

The truth is, it’s okay to struggle with Mother’s Day. It’s okay to feel sad, angry, resentful or any other emotion that you may find yourself experiencing today. Many people struggle with this holiday, and it’s completely understandable given the complexities and challenges that can come with motherhood, the challenges of trying to become a mother and mother-child relationships in general.

One of the most important things to remember when it comes to navigating difficult feelings around Mother’s Day is to give yourself permission to feel whatever it is that you’re feeling. It’s okay to have mixed emotions or to feel like you’re in a difficult spot emotionally. It’s ok to take a step away from family gatherings to breathe, to cry, to be angry and to sit with whatever emotions are coming up for you. In these moments it’s also important to be gentle with yourself. It’s okay to take time to process and work through your emotions, whether that means seeking support from a therapist or loved one, journaling, or finding other ways to express yourself.

Another important strategy for coping with difficult emotions around Mother’s Day is to practice self-care. This means taking care of yourself physically, emotionally, and mentally. If social media makes the day more difficult, then set boundaries with yourself around how much time (if any) you spend scrolling.  Make time for activities that bring you joy, whether that means spending time in nature, doing something creative, or practicing meditation or yoga. Take care of your physical health by getting enough sleep, eating nourishing foods, and engaging in regular exercise.

Finally, remember that it’s okay to set boundaries when it comes to Mother’s Day. If being around family or participating in traditional celebrations is too difficult, it’s okay to say no. You don’t have to do anything that doesn’t feel right for you. It’s important to prioritize your own needs and well-being, and to do what feels best for you! 

In closing, if you’re struggling with Mother’s Day, know that you’re not alone. It’s okay to feel a range of emotions, and it’s important to be gentle with yourself as you work through those feelings. By practicing self-care, setting boundaries, and seeking support from loved ones or a therapist, you can navigate this holiday in a way that feels best for you.